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I have had more than my fair share of D&Cs so I thought I knew what to expect with my procedure. I mean it's all the same general area, right? There is the slow and pleasant slide into unconsciousness, the warm air blanket afterward that lets you know what ice cream feels like after fudge is poured all over it, the fact that I was just getting some stitches and there was no emotional baggage or loss involved... frankly I was looking forward to it. I didn't expect to wake up in pain - feeling like my tender bits had been stung by a million hornets - and I didn't expect to have them manage the pain with multiple doses of fentanyl which is a kickass opiate that left me completely looped. I was in too much pain to sleep but too drugged to do anything but sleep. A murky half-world of disorientation and discomfort - I don't recommend it. 

Eventually they got it sorted out and I was merely dopey and sore so my friend Noelle got me into my underwear and into her car and into my bed again. She's a good friend. I discovered this morning that I have a slow leak (one of the stitches pulled out) but apart from that I feel ok.

Thank you so much for the reassurance about sending Caroline and Edward to the Y preschool in the Fall and thank you even more for resisting the urge to beat me over the head with my own clumsiness. I should have taken more care over my phrasing when I asked about school for them - thank you for the gentleness of your responses. I read them and stiffened my backbone and mailed in my application. So, yes, they will enjoy it and, yes, it will be good for them to get out and, yes, they will build new skills and, yes, it is ok for me to want a break from them. As always any neuroses expressed are solely those of the management - now I just worry that they won't have two spaces open in the two year old class. Steve said, "What if the only have o.." and I said, "CAROLINE!" but I don't think it will come to that.

I have been trying to get an article done for the past couple of weeks (every time I think I am finished some new problem arises) and between the twins (if Caroline naps she stays up until 11; if Caroline does not nap she is my shadow for twelve straight hours) and Patrick

 

who keeps saying we wouldn't even notice if he DIED and was DEAD I am feeling a little martyred.

Speaking of this article I have one last favor/request/plea. I need to interview a some single moms who share a house. Do you know anyone? Know anyone who knows anyone? You guys were so terrific with the co-housing and intentional communities that I have my fingers crossed you might know a couple (or three) enterprising single mothers. Please?       

PS I couldn't get any more photos to post on the last one because typepad is sometimes very finicky about getting files up but here are two more from the other day:

Edward is holding her head still like he does face-painting for a living

 

and this is the finished masterpiece

Sorry to be brief and woogy. Lemme know about the single moms, please. I am feeling a choking sense of panic.

Comments

[~Monkey]

loving the wee Hitler stache on young Miss C.

[Elizabeth]

With regards to single moms sharing housing -- our household consists of husband, wife, college age daughter, also husband's youngest sister plus her two young girls. She'd probably be willing to talk to you.

[JennG]

I don't but I am willing to bet that the people at Co-Abode have a rolodex they will cheerfully open for you:

http://www.coabode.org/

[JennG]

P.S. I hope the recovery is speedy and there are two spots! :)

[laura]

I believe Snickollet used to do the house-sharing arrangement with another mother? http://snickollet.blogspot.com/

[Katie]

I just squealed when I heard I may be seeing you this fall!

[SarahB]

Well wishes for a speedy recovery!

[irlandessa/kim]

yes, seconding on Snickollet. She lived with another mom with young children prior to her move out to PNWest. I would definitely recommend getting in touch with her. Good luck!

[Minneapolismama]

I hope you are feeling better soon!

[Margot]

Oh man! Seeing Caroline all dolled up with paint reminds me of the time when I got in trouble at preschool for smearing ink from a stamp pad on my eyelids. I thought it was eyeshadow, like my Mom's and I was just playing dress-up. Too bad it was purple ink, it looked like I had black eyes! I know it's unrelated but I thought you'd get a chuckle anyway.

Good luck with the article! Sending productive writerly vibes your way.

[Alex]

Feel better. :)

[rosie]

I'm thirding Snickollet.

[Jennifer]

I have neighbors that raised six kids between them, and even expanded their house to accomodate everyone. They are in a "relationship" but were both married for a decent amount of time. From what I know, neither of the exes are local, so most of the day to day stuff has been on them. Shoot me an email if you would like further info-they are in Lakeville.

[CeeCee]

If they only have one you could share the spot between the two of them. Or just Caroline. Here is hoping you get two spots.

[Heidi]

Thought you'd like to know, if you don't already, that one of fentanyl's trade names is "Sublimaze".

[Ericka]

A household with two "single" mom's would really set off my gaydar. To me it sounds like a semi-closeted lesbian couple (not two singles) both of which have kids from past relationships (men or women).

Sorry I couldn't be more help.

[Alice]

We've been having similar nap issues over here and we've implemented a max nap rule. Currently they go down for naps at noon and aren't allowed to sleep past 2. Seems to be working after a quite a few late nights with one or the other... Maybe a 1 or 2 hour limit for Caroline and no naps past 2? Just a thought...

[Christine]

I'm almost certain you didn't tell us about any upcoming procedure. As we the reading public feel we have full rights to all and any happenings in that region (which of course we don't), I feel miffed. Also, recover quickly.

Two of my cousins are divorced sisters who are currently sharing the elder sister's house while the younger sister sorts out her divorce, with four and two kids respectively. They're all out of the country on a family-reunion vacation right now, so the timing might not be ideal, but I'm sure they could help you out if that sounds like what you need. Drop me a line if so.

[Lala]

I have shared my house with another mother before. My mother did it when I was a kid too. Right now I'm alone with 3.5 kids and my mother has an in-law suite. Glad your cyst is gone. I wish you a speedy recovery.

[shadymama]

i was roommating it when i was pregnant. then we sorta fell in love, so...don't know if that counts (pesky, sexy roommates!) we still live together, though, and he's not my baby daddy, so i guess i'm *technically* a single mom, living with her ex-roommate who is now her lover...?

i'm no help.

good luck with the woogies (both drug induced and birthed.)

[Liz]

I popped in to say Snickolett but I see I have been well and truly beaten to it.

[Kathy W.]

No single mom commune connections, but the aqua Hitler mustache is very festive.

[Dead Bug]

Ooh! Ooh! I believe Irretrievably Broken (divorced, a couple of young kids) rents out a room in her house...

http://irretrievablybroken.wordpress.com/

Sorry about the woogy haze of the fentanyl. It's very...disorienting.

[Lynnette Baduteandeggs]

Snickollet is the only person I can think of, who lived with another single mom, and it was only briefly.

I used to do do face-painting for a living. Six Flags over Mid-America ca. 1985. I guess it was more for beer money and sorority dues, but I digress. I think Edward might have quite a future in low-paying amusement park careers.

[Megan]

My cousin Katie lived with another single mom for a while--she is a young mother who lives in the twin cities, so she might be easy for you to contact. She just lives with her two year old now, but she'd be willing to talk to you about her experiences.

Email me if you are interested and I can put you in contact with her. Good luck!

[Emma]

I have a girlfriend here in the Twin Cities who shares a house with her sister. They are both single moms. Let me know if you want me to put you in contact with them!

[Swiggy]

I'm glad you procedure went ok.

I think I know someone in the living arrangement you need. Let me know if you want info.

[Dara]

speedy recovery!

[Pam L]

CAROLINE! Ha! it will be good for both of them to see the dynamics in a classroom situation with other kids their age. That's the biggest thing about pre-school learning to navigate that and listen to an adult other than your Mom or Dad, and sometimes sit still at a table for a while, not on top of it.

Speedy recovery wishes for you. This is why I avoid anything that requires general anethesia if at all possible. They can't guarantee anything about how you'll feel,or if will you come out of it OK. I once had a "day surgery" procedure that ended up as an overnight because I couldn't keep water down so they would give me something for the nausea and then I would zonk out again. I woke up the next morning with stabbing pain that was "normal" and then sent me home that way. Never again.

[Debbie]

Regarding the quest for single moms sharing a house - send a request to the Single Mothers by Choice group at smc-office at pipeline dot com.

They can post the request to their listserve.

http://www.singlemothersbychoice.com

[SarahK]

I'm a single mom who lives with my widowed mother. Does that count?

[sheilah]

haha...love the martyred Patrick. Tell him you WOULD notice...you would have to move the carcass out of the hallway.

[Penny]

I have a good friend who is divorced and living with her divorced sister. They each have 2 children. I guess they are "single" moms. If you still need people shoot me an e-mail and I will see if she is interested in talking to you.

[Laurie]

Well you've well and truly talked me out of getting MY Bartholin's cyst removed...no helpon your house-sharing quest, but I do so love your blog!

[Kristin]

My (single) aunt and (single, female) cousin and her (single, age almost 11) daughter all share a home. 3 single chicks living under one roof - there has to be a sitcom there - and if you're interested, let me know.

[lizneust]

Kristin D at Better Now owns a house with her brother. She has a kid and a live in boyfriend. The brother has a live in girlfriend who also has a child. I gather there is a fair amount of co-parenting going on. Don't know if that helps.

Feel better soon.

[Laurie]

I spent a period of time being a single mother living with another single mother. Years ago tho.

[Margalit]

Years ago I lived in a two family house with another single mom in the downstairs unit. My family lived on the second floor but we kept the back stairs open all the time and shared childcare. We also did holidays, birthdays, and some meals together. I know this isn't what you are looking for, but thought I would share it as a great alternative for single moms.

[brandi]

i'm still amazed you had a bartholin's cyst and were able to walk. my mom had one and she had to have hers removed (in the dr. office, not the hospital) becuase it popped up over a day or so and was so painful she couldn't walk with it. then she had to drive home afterward and wound up getting woozy from either the pain after the local wore off or some antibiotic shot they gave her so she had to stop at her sister's house and lay on her couch until she felt able to drive.

but i'm glad your procedure went better than that! hope it heals up soon!

[Gabriele Agustini]

Love your site!! Adorable kids!!
I'll be back!

[tree town gal]

Thinking of you and hoping the recovery is going well...

[winecat]

Hoping you're recovering nicely. Oh Patrick, the one of drama. I heart Patrick.

CAROLINE - yep that would be my choice as well. Can you imagine sitting with EddieBear and reading while NOT imaging what the oh so adorable Caroline is doing at the moment : )

[jordan retro 3]

He who would do well to another must do it in minute particulars; general good is the plea of the scoundrel, hypocrite and flatterer. What do you think?